Expat Exposed

Tell me this exists :(

Dálvvadis — Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:37 am

Author: Dálvvadis

Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:37 am

*ATTN: This is the BLUE ROOM.*

I grew up in the place you are looking for..it was not in NZ.

My NZ Experience and why so many Expats failed

MeatPie — Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:35 am

Author: MeatPie

Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:35 am

Dálvvadis wrote:I was prepared to get a low pay job.
I was not prepared to never be let in and never have any friends and no one accepting an invitation.
Not prepared not to be able to sell house and leave the country. (Still standing market no matter how low price)

have you tried friending any people from your country? I didnt have any local friends either, but I knew people who were from my country so we had parties on occation. I had a couple of kiwi friends too from work. Though we didnt meet that often. Only when we drank and smoked weed.

NZ has narcisistic personality disorder

Seer — Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:20 am

Author: Seer

Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 11:20 am

This whole thing about the top secret lying pom, who wheedled his way to the top (or showed tremendous initiative, depending on your viewpoint), got me thinking. Sooner or later the psychologists are gonna trot out the same tired theories....

And I realised that the criteria for a narcisistic personality can equally apply to NZ.

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/n...objectid=10672624

Quote:Often bright and arrogant, they have good social skills, an inflated ego and commonly also an underlying low self-esteem.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wik...sonality_disorder

Quote:In order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:

Quote:Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)

characterized by affectation of grandeur or splendor or by absurd exaggeration...Erm, 100% pure, anyone?

Quote:Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

50/50....

Quote:Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Rarely acknowledges mistakes and/or imperfections

Big tick.

Quote:Requires excessive admiration

HUGE tick.

Quote:Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations

50/50

Quote:Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends

Big tick - e.g. migrants shipped in to do the dirty work...

Quote:Lacks empathy: is unwilling or unable to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

Big tick (e.g. "fuck off if you don't like it".

Quote:Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her

Big tick. Australia, anyone?

Quote:Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitude.

Scornfully and condescendingly proud? Big tick.

Diagnosis from Dr Seer. NZ shows remarkably strong narcisistic tendencies. Recommendation : immediate incarceration for an unknown duration in a maximum security jail, er, I mean hospital, for its and our own safety. ECT (Electro-convulsive therapy) at regular intervals until patient displays return to normality. Strong psychotropic drugs to aid the recovery process. Intensive one-to-one counselling sessions. Role play, and psycho-drama recommended. Re-evaluate patient in 15 years' time.

Crime Statistics

Dálvvadis — Sat Sep 11, 2010 9:28 am

Author: Dálvvadis

Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 9:28 am

Not reading all you write....
BUT..you can NOT read in statistics of how it is in a country!
Some countries have a culture where some crimes are reported and some not. Also depending on how you yourself act and behave and which environments you visit.
But I have to say that I am much more aware and scared here than in other countries where I have lived.
Seen crimes around me here due to people with drug problems.

Disillusioned Kiwi

alby — Sat Sep 11, 2010 12:37 am

Author: alby

Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 12:37 am

@ almdudler

Welcome to the site almdudler. Many kiwis find it hard to adjust back in New Zealand once they have lived overseas for few years. May be thats why many never return. Its only few years for you so hope it passes soon, and you make the most of your university life. Some of us are stuck here for a long time with very narrow escape routes. You are young and have the whole world to explore.

I had a kiwi friend at work few years back who had lived in Japan for some years. He was also planning to go back to Japan as he found it hard to stay in Auckland, which he thought had very little opportunity plus not much going for it. You are not alone. Keep us posted and some perspective on New Zealand's economic future from time to time will be great.

Private Schools Survey - Ends 8 Oct 2010

Westie — Fri Sep 10, 2010 11:07 pm

Author: Westie

Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 11:07 pm

Hello everyone

We've got less than a month to go.

Please fill in the survey and pass it on to everyone you know.

It's not every day we have an opportunity to try and make this place look a little closer to the propaganda!

Earthquake concerns mocked....who's laughing now?

alby — Fri Sep 10, 2010 5:47 pm

Author: alby

Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 5:47 pm

I never knew, before coming to NZ, there are more than 15000 earthquakes each year in New Zealand and around 250 significant ones. People will surely think twice before coming to such a "shack y" place.

http://www.geonet.org.nz/earthquake/

Quote:GeoNet analyses, locates and archives over 15,000 earthquakes each year within the New Zealand region. For the over 250 significant earthquakes felt in the New Zealand region each year,

Top secret pom lies his way to the top

Seer — Fri Sep 10, 2010 1:57 pm

Author: Seer

Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 1:57 pm

The fact that this pommy bastard was able to do his job for 5 years proves that qualifications aint worth the paper they're printed on. Otherwise he would have been exposed sooner.

So what now?

aklgap — Fri Sep 10, 2010 9:09 am

Author: aklgap

Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 9:09 am

Hi foxcrofts and welcome! I wanted to welcome you a few days ago, but needed to stear clear of this thread lest I rant and rave and lose focus. Just keep reading this forum and post as you like. Take what suits you and leave what doesn't.

I have many friend from the RSA. Lovely people who have never expressed any racist ideation to me (the black, coloured or white SAs I know). Your stories are different and I find that as a people, SAs settle more quickly that people from less unsettled homelands. But IT IS HARD and it is sad and it is lonely. I relate to your husband and so have many others who have come to this site!

Do whatever you can to get through this (even if it means going home and being a pauper for awhile). Life is too short to spend days on end wishing. As I said, I know many SAs here and to be honest, the people who have integrated the best are those who have decided there is no turning back. As people have said, some people have gone home.

Take care of yourself and give your husband some TLC as he is likely dumbstruck by the culture he faces everyday at work. It is like being on the other side of the looking glass sometimes and it can make you mental.

Sunshine's Story: Hi Sunshine here

Trisha — Fri Sep 10, 2010 4:42 am

Author: Trisha

Posted: Fri Sep 10, 2010 4:42 am

That is too cryptic for me!!

You may have to expand your message so that those less intelligent - like me - know what you mean!

Not getting the ab king pro out next year are you?!

Trisha

Pure Rip off NZ - Quake Stories

Dálvvadis — Thu Sep 09, 2010 8:36 pm

Author: Dálvvadis

Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 8:36 pm

I do think nasty things happen wherever a EQ is.
The difference I think is that kiwis do not want hear or see that this even happens in Gods-zone.

Kiwis and Aussies most generous in the world

alby — Thu Sep 09, 2010 8:08 pm

Author: alby

Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 8:08 pm

Quote:Either something wrong with the survey

The sample size is only 1000 people, irrespective of how big a countries population is. Thats quite deceiving to a certain extent. Say how can you generalize a survey sample of 1000 people to a country like China with a billion population.

Secondly, if $2.00 donations to school student fund raising are included, than New Zealand surely will be in the top position cause, even with my tight budget, I manage to donate $2.00 now and than.

Earthquake! You okay?

Rebel — Thu Sep 09, 2010 1:58 pm

Author: Rebel

Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 1:58 pm

Kiwi00 wrote:

Quote:Really we cant directly compare impact on property prices after the quake in San Francisco and Christchurch. Its like comparing apples to oranges. Even in San Francisco the prices did fall after the quake, if not for the whole of California.

Many fortune 500 companies are also headquartered in San Francisco and am sure that has an impact on the real estate prices, plus Christchurch GDP is around 16 billion compared to 300 billion for San Francisco with a GDP per capita of US$92000.00.

Nobody knows what the impact of the earthquake will be on house prices in Christchurch it could be positive or negative. They could go down for a while, but it could also have a positive effect long term with the estimates $4 billion reconstruction and rugby world cup next year, the earthquake will soon be forgotten.

Here's one thing that's definitely going to have an impact on future house prices.

Quote:Aftershocks are not the only cruel jolt Cantabrians are receiving, with some now facing a similar shock from their insurance company.

AMI isn't writing any new policies for houses in Christchurch, leaving potentially hundreds of people involved in house purchases they committed to before the quake without any cover.

http://tvnz.co.nz/close-up/...ter-quake-3767105

Wellington expats

Seer — Wed Sep 08, 2010 9:43 pm

Author: Seer

Posted: Wed Sep 08, 2010 9:43 pm

almdudler wrote:*ATTN: This is the BLUE ROOM.*

I would be happy to meet up with someone who doesn't mind brutal honesty. )

Any other returning kiwis/expats?

sure thing, come along to my expat get together. We enjoy whinging about England, and NZ...(of course).. We're a friendly group really who don't moan too much...pm me your details.

NZ like a dumb blonde

Nozza — Wed Sep 08, 2010 8:51 pm

Author: Nozza

Posted: Wed Sep 08, 2010 8:51 pm

pete2 wrote:http://emigratetonewzealand.wordpress.com/2010/04/03/migrant-tales-nz-like-a-dumb-blonde-great-to-look-at/

All Blacks – how can the best in the world never win the world championship ?

Ha !!!! Love it !!!!! This is the very same question I've been asking for a LONG LONG time.

As for that bloody Haka ..... it should be called the ha ha ha haka